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Understanding anger, there are many words to describe or experiences of anger, annoyance and irritation

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describe some milder forms of anger, whereas rage and fury suggest more intense emotional states,

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the quality of our anger will vary as well.

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We feel frustrated when our aims are thwarted, exasperated when our anger mixes with disbelief, outrage

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when we perceive a gross violation of what's right.

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What do all of these descriptions have in common in one way or another?

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There is the sense of having been wronged.

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We have expectations of how we want things to go.

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And when someone or something causes a worse outcome than we expected, we're liable to get angry.

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The thoughts we have when things don't go our way are essential to that degree of anger we feel during

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allowance customer service experience.

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He has thought to himself, this is a complete waste of my time.

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Just below this conscious awareness was the related throat.

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These people don't care that they're wasting my time.

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That interpretation is what sent him over the edge into feelings of rage.

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And I also have thoughts related to expression.

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His anger.

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As his anger built, he began to feel like he needed to punish the person he was talking to for mistreating

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them.

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They need to know I'm not a stupid who can be pushed around, he told himself his body was.

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He was was having its own set of reactions.

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His blood pressure and heart rate had increased as attention had narrowed on the target of his anger.

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His breathing also had quickened as he entered a full activation of his sympathetic nervous system.

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More fight than flight.

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He was ready for battle.

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We cannot break down the components of anger to better understand it and to find a place is in the process

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to intervene.

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Our mood of anger begins with a trigger situation, some violation of our expectation of how we should

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be treated.

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Our resulting thoughts, driven by our core beliefs, will lead to emotional and physical reactions.

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Together, these thoughts, feelings and physical sensations comprise our subjective experience of anger.

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We make an important distinction in this matter between our experience of anger and our expression of

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under the former.

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It clearly influences the letter, of course, since we have to experience anger before expressing it,

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a triggering situation leading to thoughts, physical sensations and expressions of anger.